Why Nice Guys Fail With Women
Ever wondered why the nicest guys out there never seem to have any success in the dating game, even if nearly all women would like to have a “nice guy” as a boyfriend? After all, all of us were taught by our moms to be gentlemen whenever we’re around women – follow the rules of etiquette, be polite, and foot the bill. Don’t these things make women like you?
Sure, women like nice guys – but only to a point. Remember that most other men she’s met in the past probably tried to be nice to them too. If she realizes that you’re no different from the others, the most she’ll see you as is as a good friend. And that’s only good enough if you’re in the dating game just to make friends… but who goes dating to make friends?
Let’s face it – most women, particularly the more attractive ones, have gone through so many dates with nice guys that it’s often sickening for them to sit through “yet another one of them.” It’s truly boring for them, which can make your date go sour in a matter of minutes.
Remember that women like men who are different from the others, and you can be different if you just tweak your personality a bit.
Women don’t like boring, polite men, so it’ll be to your advantage if you were funny. And since women don’t like nice guys, it’ll also be to your advantage if you don’t be nice. Be playfully arrogant. Tease her. Flirt with her then take it back. Be fun!
Being funny and playfully arrogant at the same time immediately puts you above and beyond the other guys she’s met in the past. Just the mere fact that you’re not boring her to death is already a good thing, and even if she’s the butt of most of your jokes, she’s definitely going to find your unique personality a breath of fresh air.
Now, this kind of treatment might make you think that it’s wrong to be nice to women.
On the contrary – being nice to women is a good thing. It’s only bad when you’re nice all the time, or – worse – you’re pretending to be nice in hopes of making her like you.
Try this. If she’s talking too much about her problems, pretend not to care and tell her that she’s being too whiny – then rub her shoulders. Tell her she walks like someone ten years older than she is, then open doors for her. Tell her that her driving is terrible, then kiss her. Brilliant!
The rule is this: Be funny and playfully arrogant on the outside, but be nice on the inside. It’s a winning combination that she won’t get tired of.
Here’s how to use flirting to make her want you.